Learning To Say No!

11 years as a Congressional Field Representative taught me a very valuable life lesson – How to say No!

Constituents wanted a speaker, a ribbon cutter, a grant writer, coach, project coordinator, and problem solver. And why not the Congressman’s aide? During those eleven years I helped individuals and groups, cities, counties and special districts with every conceivable problem. We built bridges, found a bridge to buy, dedicated wildlife refuges, saved U.S. Coast Guard Services, got special funding for docks, ports, dams, and parks. Each project had one specific characteristic – it matched the Congressman’s goals.

During those eleven years I read a number of excellent books on management, leadership, and time management. I don’t remember which one had the magic phrase for me, but it’s stuck after all these years. When someone calls, writes, or drops by and has a request for some use of your time go ahead and use the phrase I’ll have to check my schedule, but instead check your goals.

Does the event, project, time, speech, etc. further your goals, and in that case it was the goals of the Congressman? When the answer was yes I took the project on personally. If it didn’t I found someone or agency to help them meet their goal. It wasn’t so much that I needed to help them, just getting them help when they had no idea where to turn was the answer.

This week’s theme is “Don’t be afraid to say no”. The power of establishing boundaries is critical to everyone’s well being. Don’t let people talk you into doing things you don’t really want to do. Conversely, when you take on a project to help others, don’t let them down. Put all your energy into helping them achieve their goal. You’ll find your time is better spent and you won’t feel guilty because you learned to say no.

10 Stacks doesn’t stack up. 2/8/2015 My Review

10 Stacks To Success: How to Achieve Success One Goal at a Time by Jerome Jay Isip

I was intrigued by the title and Mission of this book. I had hoped it would enlighten me on the mindset of the Millennia’s and what motivates them. If you’re going to be in the retail market you need to understand your buyers. After I acquired it I couldn’t decide what market he was writing for. 10 stacks #1

The mission statement was intriguing, but the language was unnecessary. He indentified 10 steps (what he called stacks) to having a beautiful life. I was curious how they might differ from mine and other generations.

It was a disappointment, to say the least. He may be speaking to a target market of younger, less educated and lost souls, but it certainly wasn’t a generation I know. It might get read at a public library, but the language would probably keep it from being offered. 10 stacks # 2

And for me, he lost me at stack 4 (Dream a Little Dream). His primary question was “What do you want from this world? I don’t want anything from this world – it should be what can I give to this world this week? How can I make a difference?10 stacks #3

His opening quote should have made it clear where he was going and the attitude of the writing. Hopefully, for his sake, his target market can relate to him. I could not.

Save your money and time for a book that is more worthy than this one.

Until next time – – –