I’m A No. 2

I’ve had lots of callings in my life.  Each one with a unique focus and outcome.  Most I’ve just followed along not questioning.  Others, I’ve fretted and cried over and wished I was somewhere else.  When I finally allowed things to evolve I realized why I was there.  And one, I didn’t realize until it was no longer part of my life, how I failed to achieve the desired result.

As a Leo I’m pretty Type A and love being in the spotlight.  The many years I played in an orchestra I enjoyed the limelight as much as the actual playing.  When I was a Congressional Aide I thrived in the spotlight and having the power to help people solve their problems.  What took me many years to acknowledge and learn to deal with?  I’m not a No. 1, I’m a No. 2.  My purpose is to support someone in a leading role.  Help orchestrate results and outcomes.  Help ease the journey for the person taking the lead.  I’m really good at that and that’s what I’m doing now with my best friend and spouse, Tracy.

Currently we’re in the process of building his workshop for lapidary and other works of art.  It’s basically constructed but now needs painting, lights, and cupboards.  He’ll spend the next two-three weeks getting all that finished.  With 90+ degree weather, he’s happy to be inside with air conditioning.  He ended up at the local ER for heat exhaustion last week, so getting him out of the excess heat has been the goal.

Now I can settle down and get some of my “to do” list checked off.  First, rewrite my bio on Linked In to focus on the baskets and bead work.  I really want to promote the custom ornaments.  At $100 each I can make a reasonable return on my investment of time. They make such a wonderful wedding gift.  And the rock candy baskets are perfect for kids.  At $7.50 they are an affordable gift for grandparents to make.  Those are only available at the rock and gem shows.

It’s going to be a good year, even though I’m losing my mom to Ovarian cancer.  She’s in stage 4, and sleeps most of the day and all night.  Her Hospice nurse gave her 2 months just about 2 months ago.  I’m expecting to get a call any day that she passed in her sleep.  That’s her wish, and mine as well.  She’s on stronger doses of morphine each week and now that she won’t be receiving her gamma globulin infusions we expect she will contract Pneumonia before long as she depends on her oxygen system to breathe. A sad end, but I’m so proud of her.  She’s trying to be very brave and we try and talk every day.  Sometimes she’s just in too much pain or very sleepy from the meds.

Two weeks ago we traveled to see her, probably for the last time.  We spent time talking about all sorts of things.  She told me some new stories which I’ve written down.  We took her out for one last luncheon at her favorite restaurant.  The last day Tracy spent time watching the flowers bloom while we had “girl time”.  We lay on her bed, because she’s too weak to stand up for very long.  She lay in my arms and we hugged, cried, laughed, shared stories, and said goodbye.  And then we left for home.

All the business of passing on is ready.  As her No. 2 I’ve tried to make her shine and keep her from feeling alone.  I will miss her, but know that she is at peace and after 25 years of pain from spinal stenosis, pain free.  I’m proud to have been her No. 2.  I’m grateful that I know what my calling is.  It gives me peace.

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3 Worst TV Ads

It always amazes me at the lack of judgement many companies show when it comes to their advertising.  Especially when you’re a major corporation with a budget to buy TV ads.  Who writes this stuff?

Obviously those that produce these “clever ads” only have one foot in reality.

For instance, the latest round of ads that have earned the rating of “Terrible” include Samsung, Zyrtec, and Dodge.  Their  three ads are amazingly insensitive to the realities of today’s buyers.  Take Zyrtec – their ad shows an average American family out in the park enjoying a beautiful day and some ice cream.  She sneezes and ends up with his ice cream cone on her forehead.  It stays there while he presents her with a Unicorn stuffed animal.  Really?  The majority of buyers in today’s world are women and you demean them with this ad?

Moving on to Samsung – a major issue of today is race.  It should be called “culture” but that doesn’t buy votes.  You have a black man that goes into a mom and pop store pouring water over his new Waterproof Galaxy S7 Edge making a terrible mess and assuming the owner will clean up after him.  So what does he do?  He buys more water to make a bigger mess for someone else to clean up.  Small business owners have enough challenges without having big companies promoting this lack of respect for other people’s property.

And finally, we have the Dodge ad.  Just a couple of weeks ago there was a report on the growing problem with street racing in America, both from cars and motorcycles that torment others, drive without regard for the law and cause accidents and deaths.  The Dodge ad shows how they can beat anyone in the dark of night and street race.  This role model for breaking the law is partly what’s wrong with society.  When asked why teenagers do stupid things a growing number answer “I saw it on television”.

It’s time for companies to promote core values of decency and respect.  These three ads don’t come close.

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It’s A Small World

We attract the same energy we put out!

The Dandelion Fairy, she lives among the yellow blooms where her world is sweeter and less difficult. With golden wings and striped green suit, she can only be seen when she wants you to share her magical, miniature world.

It's A Small World

Dandelion Fairy Card – Copyright Cicely Mary Barker, English Artist

Nestled amongst the forest of pointed leaves, giant puffballs stand ready to coat her world with tiny bits of fluff even the ladybugs avoid. Chunks of agate serve as welcome benches to rest from the midday sun. An occasional mist keeps her dandelion forest growing sprouts of new plants providing tomorrows shade.

She flits from leaf to leaf, teasing the bumble bees as they feast on the pollen. It’s a world of few words, but endless joy and beauty. A place of fantasies and unique creatures that only require that you believe in their magic – if only for a moment.

We attract the same energy we put out!

Millennials – Story of Supply and Demand

Millennials are beginning to get the blame for everything in our world that is changing. Whether it’s god or bad, it’s their fault. Change – isn’t that a four letter word?

Sales of cereal are down over 30%, so it’s the millennials fault. That’s according to a recent blog report I read. They’re too lazy to put cereal in the bowl and eat it. The post didn’t take into account that over 70% of the cereal available is sugar coated garbage and they won’t eat it or buy it for their children to eat. They want whole grains and natural sweeteners, that’s the demand.

Another journalist reported that Bernie Sanders didn’t do well in some states because the millennials didn’t vote. Perhaps they weren’t socialists and chose to not vote at all? Again, no demand.

When I tried to by jelly beans for an Eater Basket there was only one choice. 90% of all the offerings for sale were chocolate covered or filled somethings. That must be the demand because small manufactures supply what people demand.

That leads me to Trump vs. Clinton. What the media and GOP old-timers want is someone other than Trump. They’re trying to create demand for someone else, because they don’t want him as President. But the people re demanding something else. The millennials want an outsider that doesn’t represent Wall Street or Washington D.C.

Yet here’s Mrs. Clinton. As crooked as the Clinton’s are, the demand for the social programs they support is greater than honesty. If Trump wants to win he’s going to have to create a path for safe removal from social programs not punitive solutions. The demand for big brother taking care of them won’t go away and without educating the on where the money comes from and where it needs to go is where the demand should be. Otherwise we can continue to supply their demands for socialism without the label.

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Looking Forward to Writing

I’ve come from writing press releases to a weeky column for the Garield County Insider, to a travel blog, and I’ve written several grants over the past 8 years – both for Escalante City and private industry – just shy of a million dollars. We moved to Enoch from Escalante this winter and am ready to start writing an historical fiction about my great Grandmother who was a Kaw Indian. I’d like to create a mini book to go along with my mini baskets and I plan to spend more time blogging.

Since a college professor told me I’d never be a good writer I’ve spent the last 26 years trying to prove her wrong.  The best part of the adventure is discovering how much fun it is to write.  I’m hoping to connect with other writers locally and learn about their adventure.

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